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    • #7270
      Unique_Princess
      Participant

      I recieved an email a few months ago which I didn't read too properly at the time. I was just sorting my emails out and after the death of my aunty nearly three weeks ago now, I reread this email and I found it to be so true. This doesn't just have to be read from an Islamic view, i'm sure a lot of people feel the same way. This was just written by a Muslim person Smile

      Losing someone you love…
      Losing someone you love a friend or a member of your family is
      probably one of the worst experiences of life. It doesn't matter how
      strong you are; nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one.
      When you first hear about what's happened you're in denial you can't
      believe that someone you know and love is dead. You can't bear the
      thought of never seeing, hearing or talking to them again. You feel
      numb even fearful at the thought. You keep expecting and hoping
      against hope to see them somewhere even if it was for a second to say
      the things you didn't say but fate is cruel and you don't get a
      second chance to say sorry, thank you or I love you. When you lose
      someone you start to think about your life and how there are so many
      things that you say and do that are wrong and a waste of valuable
      time. You start to consider questions like am I using my time wisely?
      If I die tomorrow will I have said everything I've wanted to say to
      the people in my life? Have I done everything I should've done, did I
      prepare well for the after life? Most of the time the answer to these
      questions is no because we never think of the prospect of dieing we
      never think what if there is no tomorrow. We argue with those closest
      to us and don't forgive them for mistakes. We let our anger take
      control of us and say things in the heat of the moment without ever
      seriously considering what we are saying. We never take the time to
      pray or to offer thanks to our creator for everything he has blessed
      us with. We always worry about material things but never consider the
      soul the only thing we will be taking with us from this world. We
      never satisfy the soul our passport to paradise. We fear losing our
      friends and family because we feel such strong love for them but do
      they know that? Do we ever take the time to be sentimental or do we
      consider feelings as uncool? We never take the time to say those nice
      things or to just give a smile to show that we love them. We lead
      such fast and busy lives that we don't have the time to even say
      salaam in some cases we don't think what if the next time I see this
      person it's too late or what if there is no next time?

      In conclusion I would like to say that life is too short for
      arguments mistakes and waiting for tomorrows that never come. We
      should make the most of our lives and say salaam, thank you, sorry
      and I love you more often or just give a smile to make someone's day
      because a smile says a lot more than a silence. We should live each
      day as our last and live our life so that we are prepared for our
      death. We should satisfy our souls and pay as much attention to our
      soul as we do to everything else and not get caught up in this fast
      and busy world because this is just a journey to our final abode.
      Live your life as a good Muslim and ensure that you have secured your
      place in paradise. Always remember Allah first thing in the morning
      and last thing at night for you never know when you may have to leave
      this world and go to the afterlife where excuses are irrelevant,
      where you stand before Allah alone and answer

    • #60959
      vchenoah
      Participant

      Thanks for sharing Princess.

      Everyone understands grief/loss, no matter the race, color or religion!

    • #60960
      Am Rani
      Participant

      Thank for sharing! Smile

      This is something we all know, but it's very good when we remember is sometimes. Like now, by reading this text…

      And you are indeed right, Nessa!

    • #60961
      boo
      Participant

      Dear Tayba,

      That was beautiful… I enjoyed reading it… you are right, it DOES get you thinking, doesn't it?

      I hope all is well with you ji… *hugs*

      Can I ask you guys something?

      Do you think you are regretting your life right now? Do you think you have lost sight of what is REALLY important to you – be it your God, your family, friends, Love, whatever?

      I don't. I am not a perfect person, but I think I live my life as a celebration each day – or at least, I like to think I do, and I make an effort to do so… I always try and say “I love you” to those that mean the world universe to me, and appreciate their Love and Friendship as much as I can… (Khushi, why am I thinking of you as I write this? lolz… crazy!)

      … and I am sure most of us DO do that in our lives. Unless I am being too optimistic and trying to neglect the reality of life…

      Just curious to know… Smile

    • #60962
      Am Rani
      Participant

      Hi Boo!

      I think I'm doing a pretty good job, when it comes to telling my loved ones I love them, and how much they mean to me.

      When it comes to myself, live every day like it's my last, I could do better. I decided for myself, when 2007 started, that I should listen to myself some more. I tend to loose myself in working, being irritated about this and that. If I do, I forget to enjoy the small things in life which are precious. I forget to take some rest, and just enjoy. But, as I said, I'm working on it, because I know it's important. And than it's good to see this text above Smile

    • #60963
      boo
      Participant
      Am Rani:

      Hi Boo!

      I think I'm doing a pretty good job, when it comes to telling my loved ones I love them, and how much they mean to me.

      When it comes to myself, live every day like it's my last, I could do better. I decided for myself, when 2007 started, that I should listen to myself some more. I tend to loose myself in working, being irritated about this and that. If I do, I forget to enjoy the small things in life which are precious. I forget to take some rest, and just enjoy. But, as I said, I'm working on it, because I know it's important. And than it's good to see this text above Smile

      Right Hug

    • #60964
      Am Rani
      Participant

      Left Hug Smile

    • #60965
      Mukesh
      Keymaster

      Everyone understands grief/loss, no matter the race, color or religion!

      yup understand Grief and loss but its really a difficult thing to accept

    • #60966
      Marine
      Participant
      boo:

      Dear Tayba,

      That was beautiful… I enjoyed reading it… you are right, it DOES get you thinking, doesn't it?

      I hope all is well with you ji… *hugs*

      Can I ask you guys something?

      Do you think you are regretting your life right now? Do you think you have lost sight of what is REALLY important to you – be it your God, your family, friends, Love, whatever?

      I don't. I am not a perfect person, but I think I live my life as a celebration each day – or at least, I like to think I do, and I make an effort to do so… I always try and say “I love you” to those that mean the world universe to me, and appreciate their Love and Friendship as much as I can… (Khushi, why am I thinking of you as I write this? lolz… crazy!)

      … and I am sure most of us DO do that in our lives. Unless I am being too optimistic and trying to neglect the reality of life…

      Just curious to know… Smile

      UP love you hunny thank you so much for sharing it with us.

      I agree with this BOO most of my days i live as a celebration to i treat everyone around me like its my last day or their last day. Like i love to make my family lough before they go to sleep so they don't go to bed with anger or with thought of something bad.

      I always took everything for granted when i heard my uncle has cancer and he might die it made my eyes open and look at life differently.

      I love you all you guys my other family and you all are very specail to me new members or older.

      Well older more then newer LOLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ

    • #60967
      Mukesh
      Keymaster

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      Can I ask you guys something?

      Do you think you are regretting your life right now? Personally NOPE!! its where I wanna be at the moment…

      Do you think you have lost sight of what is REALLY important to you – be it your God, your family, friends, Love, whatever?

      Here again NOPE!! MY GOD, family and fwends have alwayscome first in my life

      I don't. I am not a perfect person, but I think I live my life as a celebration each day – or at least, I like to think I do, and I make an effort to do so… I always try and say “I love you” to those that mean the world universe to me, and appreciate their Love and Friendship as much as I can… (Khushi, why am I thinking of you as I write this? lolz… crazy!) …

      Missy Boo expected u to says sums like above 😉

      … and I am sure most of us DO do that in our lives. Unless I am being too optimistic and trying to neglect the reality of life…

    • #60968
      boo
      Participant
      Scar face:
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      I don't. I am not a perfect person, but I think I live my life as a celebration each day – or at least, I like to think I do, and I make an effort to do so… I always try and say “I love you” to those that mean the world universe to me, and appreciate their Love and Friendship as much as I can… (Khushi, why am I thinking of you as I write this? lolz… crazy!) …

      Missy Boo expected u to says sums like above 😉

      hai hai…. good. You're getting to know me yaar… Big Smile

    • #60969
      Am Rani
      Participant
      boo:

      hai hai…. good. You're getting to know me yaar… Big Smile

      As far as it's possible to get to know the mysterious lady.. Wink

    • #60970
      Mukesh
      Keymaster

      Tayba, hope u well sweety Big Smile

      nice words from yr fwend…read through it and a few sentences just stuck, got me doing a whole lot more thinking hehehehe lmao

      I think below does require some serious thought

      lotza lurve Right Hug

      al


      If I die tomorrow will I have said everything I've wanted to say to
      the people in my life? Have I done everything I should've done, did I
      prepare well for the after life?

      We let our anger take control of us and say things in the heat

      of the moment without ever seriously considering what we are saying.

      We fear losing our friends and family because we feel such strong

      love for them but do they know that? Do we ever take the time to be

      sentimental or do we consider feelings as un-cool?


      In conclusion I would like to say that life is too short for
      arguments mistakes and waiting for tomorrows that never come
      .

      . We should live each day as our last and live our life so that we are prepared for our
      death. We should satisfy our souls and pay as much attention to our
      soul as we do to everything else and not get caught up in this fast
      and busy world because this is just a journey to our final abode.

      where you stand before Allah alone and answer to your mistakes.

      We should smile more often and not get angry with those we love so
      easily because at the end of the day

    • #60971
      Am Rani
      Participant
      Marine:

      I always took everything for granted when i heard my uncle has cancer and he might die it made my eyes open and look at life differently. How is he now? Left Hug

      I love you all you guys my other family and you all are very specail to me new members or older. Awww, that was sweet!!

      Well older more then newer LOLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ And that was hilarious, imao! Big Smile

    • #60972
      RaNi iS ThE BeS
      Participant

      Tayba ji…Right Hug

      Thanks for sharing, I really liked it. Smile

    • #60973
      Aminath Shaly
      Participant

      Hi everyone……………………..

      I also want to share something with you…………………

      Each year he sent her roses,
      and the note would always say,
      I love you even more this year,
      than last year on this day.
      My love for you will always grow,
      with every passing year.”

      She knew this was the last time
      that the roses would appear.
      She thought, he ordered roses
      in advance before this day.
      Her loving husband did not know,
      that he would pass away.

      He always liked to do things early,
      way before the time.
      Then, if he got too busy,
      everything would work out fine.

      She trimmed the stems and
      placed them in a very special vase.
      Then, sat the vase beside
      the portrait of
      his smiling face.

      She would sit for hours,
      In her husband's favorite chair.
      While staring at his picture,
      and the roses sitting there.

      A year went by, and it was
      to live without her mate.
      With loneliness and solitude,
      that had become her fate.

      Then, the very hour,
      The doorbell rang, and there
      were roses sitting by her door.

      She brought the roses in,
      and then just looked at them in shock.
      Then, went to get the telephone,
      to call the florist shop.

      The owner answered, and she asked him,
      if he would explain, Why would someone would
      do this to her, causing her such pain?

      “I know your husband passed away,
      more than a year ago,”
      The owner said,
      “I knew you'd call, and you would want to know.
      The flowers you received today,
      were paid for in advance.
      Your husband always
      planned ahead,


      he left nothing to chance.
      There is a standing order,
      that I have on file down here,
      And he has paid, well in advance,

      you'll get them every year.

      There also is another thing,
      that I think you should know,
      He wrote a special little card…he did this years ago.
      Then, should ever I find out that he's no longer here, that's the card that should be sent to you
      the following year.”

      She thanked him and hung up the phone, her tears now flowing hard.
      Her fingers shaking,
      as she slowly reached to get the card.

      Inside the card, she saw that he had written her a note.
      Then, as she stared in total silence,
      this is what he wrote…

      “Hello my love, I know it's been a year
      since I've been gone.
      I hope it hasn't been too hard for you to overcome.
      I know it must be lonely,
      and the pain is
      very real.

      Or if it was the other way,
      I know how I would feel.
      The love we shared made everything
      so beautiful in life.
      I
      loved you more than words can say,
      you were the perfect wife.
      You were my friend and lover,
      you fulfilled my every need.
      I know it's only been a year,
      but please try not to grieve.

      I want you to be happy,
      even when you shed your tears.
      That is why the roses will be sent to you for years.
      When you get these roses,
      think of all the happiness that we had together,
      and how both of us were blessed.
      I have always loved you and
      I know I always will.
      But, my love, you must go on,
      you have some living still.

      Please…try to find happiness,
      while living out your days.
      I know it is not easy,
      but I hope you find some ways.

      The roses will come every year,
      and they
      will only

    • #60974
      Aminath Shaly
      Participant

      Too long isn't it????? But i hope you will find it very very interesting………………..

      Takecare friends………………..

    • #60975
      boo
      Participant
      Aminath Shaly:

      Each year he sent her roses,
      and the note would always say,
      I love you even more this year,
      than last year on this day.
      My love for you will always grow,
      with every passing year.”

      She knew this was the last time
      that the roses would appear.
      She thought, he ordered roses
      in advance before this day.
      Her loving husband did not know,
      that he would pass away.

      He always liked to do things early,
      way before the time.
      Then, if he got too busy,
      everything would work out fine.

      She trimmed the stems and
      placed them in a very special vase.
      Then, sat the vase beside
      the portrait of
      his smiling face.

      She would sit for hours,
      In her husband's favorite chair.
      While staring at his picture,
      and the roses sitting there.

      A year went by, and it was
      to live without her mate.
      With loneliness and solitude,
      that had become her fate.

      Then, the very hour,
      The doorbell rang, and there
      were roses sitting by her door.

      She brought the roses in,
      and then just looked at them in shock.
      Then, went to get the telephone,
      to call the florist shop.

      The owner answered, and she asked him,
      if he would explain, Why would someone would
      do this to her, causing her such pain?

      “I know your husband passed away,
      more than a year ago,”
      The owner said,
      “I knew you'd call, and you would want to know.
      The flowers you received today,
      were paid for in advance.
      Your husband always
      planned ahead,


      he left nothing to chance.
      There is a standing order,
      that I have on file down here,
      And he has paid, well in advance,

      you'll get them every year.

      There also is another thing,
      that I think you should know,
      He wrote a special little card…he did this years ago.
      Then, should ever I find out that he's no longer here, that's the card that should be sent to you
      the following year.”

      She thanked him and hung up the phone, her tears now flowing hard.
      Her fingers shaking,
      as she slowly reached to get the card.

      Inside the card, she saw that he had written her a note.
      Then, as she stared in total silence,
      this is what he wrote…

      “Hello my love, I know it's been a year
      since I've been gone.
      I hope it hasn't been too hard for you to overcome.
      I know it must be lonely,
      and the pain is
      very real.

      Or if it was the other way,
      I know how I would feel.
      The love we shared made everything
      so beautiful in life.
      I
      loved you more than words can say,
      you were the perfect wife.
      You were my friend and lover,
      you fulfilled my every need.
      I know it's only been a year,
      but please try not to grieve.

      I want you to be happy,
      even when you shed your tears.
      That is why the roses will be sent to you for years.
      When you get these roses,
      think of all the happiness that we had together,
      and how both of us were blessed.
      I have always loved you and
      I know I always will.
      But, my love, you must go on,
      you have some living still.

      Please…try to find happiness,
      while living out your days.
      I know it is not easy,
      but I hope you find some ways.

      The roses will come every year,

    • #60976
      boo
      Participant

      Does this poem have a title?

    • #60977
      Shakalaka Baby
      Participant

      Wow, I loved this poem too!! Smile It really brought tears into my eyes while reading it… It's so beautiful!! Smile Thanks for sharing!!

      And Unique… thank you for sharing that e-mail with us… It's so true!! Smile

    • #60978
      Marine
      Participant

      OMG that was the most special Poem that i have read who wrote it? Whos the poet and if its you enter it in the contest.

      Am Rani jaan he is doing good i guess he never says anything he had fever but its gone and his back to work. We will know more when he goes and see another oncalogist. With gods grace jis lung will be save seeing that the other lung is totall ypsread.

    • #60979
      Unique_Princess
      Participant

      Hey guys,

      am glad you liked the forward.. yeah it is very true… right now its late but hopefully will reply to this thread tmw.. Inshallah. x

    • #60980
      Am Rani
      Participant
      Marine:

      Am Rani jaan he is doing good i guess he never says anything he had fever but its gone and his back to work. We will know more when he goes and see another oncalogist. With gods grace jis lung will be save seeing that the other lung is totall ypsread.

      Good to hear he's ok now, Marine. Keep me posted, ok?

    • #60981
      Unique_Princess
      Participant

      Marine I pray that he gets better soon… x

      One of my aunty's lungs was not working either as the cancer had spread there and was on its way to the second lung. Her cancer was renal, it started in the kidney and then there were shadows in the lung, before completely spreading there.. then later on a tumor grew in her windpipe… its such a bad illness..

    • #60982
      Marine
      Participant

      omg UP that is a horibble thing to go through i mean i just waith and just keep thinking if this christmas or this new year he will be here or gone which god forbit does happened but its life.I don't know what his is called but it was in his leg they removed it… little did they know that it had jumped to his lung. There is a lung specialist that we are trying to get and appointment by his in Nevada but his biiked for the next 4 months.. My bro said he will pull some strings so lets hope.

      Am Rani jaan thanks sweety,

    • #60983
      Mukesh
      Keymaster

      Mara Right Hug Jeeesh why all the negative thoughts…..he WILL be okies, have faith…

      Miracles do happen…TRUST ME 😉 ….

    • #60984
      boo
      Participant
      Marine:

      Am Rani jaan he is doing good i guess he never says anything he had fever but its gone and his back to work. We will know more when he goes and see another oncalogist. With gods grace jis lung will be save seeing that the other lung is totall ypsread.

      Right Hug Hang in there sweety… hope everything gets better for you… x

    • #60985
      Am Rani
      Participant

      So do I, Marine. Try to keep your chin up, and never loose hope and faith… And keep us posted, ja?

    • #60986
      MaMa PeGaSuS
      Participant

      dammmit..dis just added to mah heaviness…

    • #60987
      scarface
      Participant

      ‘Losing someone you love…
      Losing someone you love a friend or a member of your family is
      probably one of the worst experiences of life. It doesn’t matter how
      strong you are; nothing can prepare you for the death of a loved one.
      When you first hear about what’s happened you’re in denial you can’t
      believe that someone you know and love is dead. You can’t bear the
      thought of never seeing, hearing or talking to them again. You feel
      numb even fearful at the thought. You keep expecting and hoping
      against hope to see them somewhere even if it was for a second to say
      the things you didn’t say but fate is cruel and you don’t get a
      second chance to say sorry, thank you or I love you. When you lose
      someone you start to think about your life and how there are so many
      things that you say and do that are wrong and a waste of valuable
      time. You start to consider questions like am I using my time wisely?
      If I die tomorrow will I have said everything I’ve wanted to say to
      the people in my life? Have I done everything I should’ve done, did I
      prepare well for the after life? Most of the time the answer to these
      questions is no because we never think of the prospect of dieing we
      never think what if there is no tomorrow. We argue with those closest
      to us and don’t forgive them for mistakes. We let our anger take
      control of us and say things in the heat of the moment without ever
      seriously considering what we are saying
      . We never take the time to
      pray or to offer thanks to our creator for everything he has blessed
      us with. We always worry about material things but never consider the
      soul the only thing we will be taking with us from this world. We
      never satisfy the soul our passport to paradise. We fear losing our
      friends and family because we feel such strong love for them but do
      they know that? Do we ever take the time to be sentimental or do we
      consider feelings as uncool? We never take the time to say those nice
      things or to just give a smile to show that we love them. We lead
      such fast and busy lives that we don’t have the time to even say
      salaam in some cases we don’t think what if the next time I see this
      person it’s too late or what if there is no next time?

      In conclusion I would like to say that life is too short for
      arguments mistakes and waiting for tomorrows that never come. We
      should make the most of our lives and say salaam, thank you, sorry
      and I love you more often or just give a smile to make someone’s day
      because a smile says a lot more than a silence. We should live each
      day as our last and live our life so that we are prepared for our
      death. We should satisfy our souls and pay as much attention to our
      soul as we do to everything else and not get caught up in this fast
      and busy world because this is just a journey to our final abode.
      Live your life as a good Muslim and ensure that you have secured your
      place in paradise. Always remember Allah first thing in the morning
      and last thing at night for you never know when you may have to leave
      this world and go to the afterlife where excuses are irrelevant,
      where you stand before Allah alone and answer’

      xxx

      Had to copy/paste this again coz for some reason the fonts all weird and I couldnt read the words properly

      for someone who loves to express myself through the written form, these days all that comes outa me is


      blankness, I cant really *express** because I am afraid of the raw emotion that will come outa me…

      NOTHING can prepare a person when it comes to losing someone, to death

      my heart used to do weird aching samersaults when I would hear of a stranger dying, I remember being traumatized when the principle announced the death of this guys (I never knew) dad, random death upsets me and makes me feel great loss
      so the magnitude of losing my mum, I still cant FEEL, its lft me in this vault, so tight, so suffocating..

      I dnt knw why I found this thread, but the words describes part of what we have been experiencing..

      I miss my mother
      missing her more than I miss anything else I can think of..
      every second, literally every second, I feel my heart breaks into tinier pieces, nothings the same with her gone
      she is my rock, my foundation, my strength, and my best friend, my mother, my confidant, my advisor, my everything..
      I dont knw if she knew it, but she is the only one I would actually LISTEN to 🙂 even though I always pretended to NOT listen…ugh am not making sense now… alll this nostalgia is getting to me… 🙁

      tnx: Tayba, for sharing this, it helps not only when u know people who are going through a similar experience, but also when u are in that situation as well…

    • #60988
      kenrickdacre
      Participant

      when u love someone who is your family member or any friend that is worst moment of the life. And that time anyone feel very bad and think that time one back and we could change whatever happen.

    • #60989
      ammyrodrics
      Participant

      It really hurts when we lose someone so close to us…

    • #60990
      abseventy
      Participant

      I would rather say if you are meeting for the last time and you know that you won;t be meeting again in the life time then make sure that you end up your relationship on a happy node best would be to give a warm hug to the person right at the time when you are about to leave, this will not only make you feel better but if you meet again in life you won’t find it difficult to face that person and there may me any sort of bitterness in the relationship but at the last moment fish it with a smile for the sake of goodtimes…..

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